Scott Kiloby, co-founder of the Kiloby Inquiries
What are the Kiloby Inquiries?
To help people overcome addictions and traumas, The Kiloby Inquiries were developed at the Kiloby Center for Recovery in Rancho Mirage, California, the first mindfulness-based recovery center in the United States. Overcoming addictions and traumas regardless of how severe they may be, has been successfully achieved at the center by helping people be present to themselves and living in the moment. By teaching people to inquire from a place of awareness, their clients have learned to see and heal their feelings of unworthiness – a very common problem most people suffer from because we believe there’s truly something truly wrong with us. Until we are able to free ourselves from our false beliefs, we’ll forever remain disconnected from our true selves and needlessly suffer because of this throughout our lives. It is also their belief at the Kiloby Center, and is now being recognized by many other professionals in the field of addictions, that all addictions stem from a childhood trauma.
After getting a life-threatening brain tumor, I lived for decades scanning my environment believing I had to constantly protecting myself from some form of danger I feared might happen. Like many others who have been traumatized, I’d become hyper-vigilant. It was impossible for me to feel completely safe or to believe that anyone could be fully trusted to have my back ever again – particularly in the case of emergencies.
To help myself navigate through the frightening medical world, I’d learned long ago to listen to my body in a similar way the Kiloby Inquiries also do because this is where our true strength resides. To find the answers I desperately needed after my life was threatened, I would feel my body’s somatic responses knowing this could always be trusted. But the Kiloby Inquiries go much farther than I did by fine tuning what I’d taught myself years before. While in a state of natural rest, they helped me to see and release the fears and distorted beliefs that had been imprisoning and harming me.
All traumas are stored in our bodies. Even though our trauma may have occurred decades earlier, until we release it, it hinders our lives. It causes us pain. As a child our parents may have gotten divorced, a teacher may have humiliated us or we may have been bullied at school or we may have lost a grandparent who was particularly dear to us and was our protector. Being diagnosed with cancer, getting a divorce, losing a child, and many others things traumatize us as adults.
The Kiloby Inquiries helped me see that there was really nothing wrong with me after decades of believing I’d become “damaged goods;” that I’d just been traumatized many times in my life. I learned that my body was reacting in the way people’s bodies react after they being traumatized. What a relief it was to discover the often subtle and sometimes blatant ways I’d often felt whenever my fears hijacked me were perfectly normal responses (and not odd or bad as I once thought). At last I regained the freedom that I’d lost and craved! Once I realized that I wasn’t the damaged person I’d thought I was, a whole new level of healing began for me.
I am now pursuing my certification to become a Kiloby Inquiries Facilitator. If you would like a free session using Zoom so that you can experience a lifetime of better understanding and freedom too while I am still in training, just get in touch with me and request a session. My time is naturally limited but my goal is to help as many people as possible discover what I am so grateful to have discovered that has helped me become the person I was created to be without having an albatross around my neck.